Broken Trust: Can It Be Repaired? By Shannon Batts, Relationship Gardener
Healing is possible if you are willing to do what it takes to repair the marriage, if you aren't steeped in bitterness, and if there is remorse. Ah yes, and if your mate is willing to stop cheating.
Dealing with the trauma that the affair creates is your first step and that is a painful and sometimes lengthy period. Find yourself a relationship specialist who can be with you as you deal with the depth of pain that betrayal brings. I'm in Portland if you need me to assist you in starting the healing process, or if your relationship needs attention to all the habits of love and connection that you may have been missing or that faded away before the betrayal.
Even if you were to leave your mate and start over with a new partner, you are still at risk of that new one crashing if you haven't learned the everyday habits and emotional attunement needed to stay happy and together. Once you know what those habits are, you will know if your relationship is missing them, or if your mate just took an opportunity that snowballed into an affair.
Check out the free relationship growing and saving series on the home page at top left, "Love Habits" to get started.
