Who is Relationship Gardening for?
Do you want to make your relationship better? Or is there that one topic you just can't get through yet?
Do you have a good relationship-but just need some support due to being bombarded by life events, or one of you coming out trans?
Did you think you had a good marriage but then found out your partner was having an affair?
Or are you here just for the chicken video? You'll have to find it below and I am leaving it there even though I get a little weird in it. I miss Athena (RIP).
Why Relationship Gardening?
This is Shannon Batts speaking and I specialize in making marriage better, both the weeding out the mess and the seeding of new great relationship strategies, or keeping it all good, including for all you therapists, healers, and doctors.
How is this relationship relief possible? Much of it is that I am not guessing but have studied the research and been advance trained for many years in bringing all those happy marriage skills to you.
It helps to have a sense of humor, and a happy marriage that is using the same skills I will teach you!
Learn how to talk about hard topics with your loved ones so that you can have a stronger, healthier relationship that can withstand hard times, and free you up to be the best you possible, to devote yourselves to your life's mission or passion.
Did you know there is a communication safety net you have to create first before you even start working on your list of what needs addressing? This is one of several new habits that get rolled out in your 1st session.
Or did you know affair recovery or affair prevention has very specific steps? I can coach you through the first few in your first session and give you a clear roadmap of recovery.
Have you every thought maybe this relationship is one we can invest in making healthy from the engagement?
Move your engagement over to the Happily Ever After path with research confirmed best communication strategies. Learn specifically what to avoid to stay off the early and late divorce path. Do you know what those differences are? Let's catch you up.
WHAT ABOUT COMING OUT
TRANSGENDER IN MARRIAGE?
Many don't come out for years in a marriage-and just stay miserable for fear of losing the very loved partner. You need the positive support for what is next and that is hard to find; support does exist. Among the other kinds of couples I am here for, for years now, I offer professional, savvy support for couples staying together while undergoing gender transition, and for spouses navigating all the changes. I created support groups just for these couples and a separate one for supportive spouses. These groups remain active via video meetings and retreats in 2021 by donation.
SPOUSES' Group for Oregonians and Californians is active and ongoing for when your partner comes out to you as transgender, non binary or questioning gender, and you want a place to talk in person with other supportive spouses who are going through similar things as you. Click on this sentence to go to the Couples and Families of Transgender partners' page and watch my video message, or read about Spouses' and Couples' Groups for the gender transitioning mid relationship.
SPOUSES' Group meets by Zoom video meeting. Share this page for just Spouses' Group information:
http://www.relationshipgardening.com/spouses-group.html
Read the BLOG post on the supportive Spouses' Group, who gets in and how, what does the group focus on here: https://relationshipgardening.com/blog/transgender-coming-out-in-marriage-spouses-group
Need a letter in OR or CA for gender-affirmation medical care? https://relationshipgardening.com/gender-letters-portland.html
HOW YOU CAN HELP
I have flexible rates for all clients in Oregon or California where I am licensed. In 2020 alone, more than 37 people received by donation support groups. Five transgender clients (more in 2021) received free or minimal donation gender medical assessments and surgery letters, including for the unhoused. Black clients received reparations inspired free relationship support. White people faced their white fragility and bubbles, and became more aware and committed active anti-racists. Since 2018 I committed to being a trained, volunteer facilitator of Race Talks PDX, and developed and led my own antiracism group for white people, Accountability Friends of the Anarchist Jurisdiction. Just kidding. It is called Accountability Friends' Antiracism Group. If any of these things are important to you, you can hit these donate buttons and look at some options-share your resources in support of the above and more. When you make a donation be sure to email me so I know who it is from and what your donation is about.
DONATE HERE via Square Donate here via Paypal
Looking for a Marriage Counselor who studies and applies awareness of intersectionality, and the importance of examining her own hidden bias? Shannon is a trained and active Race Talks Facilitator in Portland, Oregon, intentionally under (completed) training (100+ hours) and ongoing mentorship by Donna Maxey and Shaina Pomerantz.
Do you want to make your relationship better? Or is there that one topic you just can't get through yet?
Do you have a good relationship-but just need some support due to being bombarded by life events, or one of you coming out trans?
Did you think you had a good marriage but then found out your partner was having an affair?
Or are you here just for the chicken video? You'll have to find it below and I am leaving it there even though I get a little weird in it. I miss Athena (RIP).
Why Relationship Gardening?
This is Shannon Batts speaking and I specialize in making marriage better, both the weeding out the mess and the seeding of new great relationship strategies, or keeping it all good, including for all you therapists, healers, and doctors.
How is this relationship relief possible? Much of it is that I am not guessing but have studied the research and been advance trained for many years in bringing all those happy marriage skills to you.
It helps to have a sense of humor, and a happy marriage that is using the same skills I will teach you!
Learn how to talk about hard topics with your loved ones so that you can have a stronger, healthier relationship that can withstand hard times, and free you up to be the best you possible, to devote yourselves to your life's mission or passion.
Did you know there is a communication safety net you have to create first before you even start working on your list of what needs addressing? This is one of several new habits that get rolled out in your 1st session.
Or did you know affair recovery or affair prevention has very specific steps? I can coach you through the first few in your first session and give you a clear roadmap of recovery.
Have you every thought maybe this relationship is one we can invest in making healthy from the engagement?
Move your engagement over to the Happily Ever After path with research confirmed best communication strategies. Learn specifically what to avoid to stay off the early and late divorce path. Do you know what those differences are? Let's catch you up.
WHAT ABOUT COMING OUT
TRANSGENDER IN MARRIAGE?
Many don't come out for years in a marriage-and just stay miserable for fear of losing the very loved partner. You need the positive support for what is next and that is hard to find; support does exist. Among the other kinds of couples I am here for, for years now, I offer professional, savvy support for couples staying together while undergoing gender transition, and for spouses navigating all the changes. I created support groups just for these couples and a separate one for supportive spouses. These groups remain active via video meetings and retreats in 2021 by donation.
SPOUSES' Group for Oregonians and Californians is active and ongoing for when your partner comes out to you as transgender, non binary or questioning gender, and you want a place to talk in person with other supportive spouses who are going through similar things as you. Click on this sentence to go to the Couples and Families of Transgender partners' page and watch my video message, or read about Spouses' and Couples' Groups for the gender transitioning mid relationship.
SPOUSES' Group meets by Zoom video meeting. Share this page for just Spouses' Group information:
http://www.relationshipgardening.com/spouses-group.html
Read the BLOG post on the supportive Spouses' Group, who gets in and how, what does the group focus on here: https://relationshipgardening.com/blog/transgender-coming-out-in-marriage-spouses-group
Need a letter in OR or CA for gender-affirmation medical care? https://relationshipgardening.com/gender-letters-portland.html
HOW YOU CAN HELP
I have flexible rates for all clients in Oregon or California where I am licensed. In 2020 alone, more than 37 people received by donation support groups. Five transgender clients (more in 2021) received free or minimal donation gender medical assessments and surgery letters, including for the unhoused. Black clients received reparations inspired free relationship support. White people faced their white fragility and bubbles, and became more aware and committed active anti-racists. Since 2018 I committed to being a trained, volunteer facilitator of Race Talks PDX, and developed and led my own antiracism group for white people, Accountability Friends of the Anarchist Jurisdiction. Just kidding. It is called Accountability Friends' Antiracism Group. If any of these things are important to you, you can hit these donate buttons and look at some options-share your resources in support of the above and more. When you make a donation be sure to email me so I know who it is from and what your donation is about.
DONATE HERE via Square Donate here via Paypal
Looking for a Marriage Counselor who studies and applies awareness of intersectionality, and the importance of examining her own hidden bias? Shannon is a trained and active Race Talks Facilitator in Portland, Oregon, intentionally under (completed) training (100+ hours) and ongoing mentorship by Donna Maxey and Shaina Pomerantz.
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EXPLORE the tabs on this site, or this concise list How to process together your conflict though an Aftermath Live Demo Workshop for most couples https://relationshipgardening.com/relationship-workshops.html Transgender in Couples or Marriage https://relationshipgardening.com/trans-in-couples.html Couples and Family of Transitioning Gender https://relationshipgardening.com/partners-of-transgender.html Partners of Trans or Non Binary Seeking Online Support see this encouraging message https://relationshipgardening.com/partners-of-transgender-online-support.html Reviews https://relationshipgardening.com/couples-therapist-reviews-portland.html Couples Workshops https://relationshipgardening.com/relationship-workshops.html MORE relationship events, classes, groups https://relationshipgardening.com/relationship-support-events-225015.html Rethinking Psychiatry and video https://relationshipgardening.com/rethinking-psychiatry-alternatives.html Shannon's favorite resources, referrals, extra Rethinking Psychiatry links https://relationshipgardening.com/resourcesevents.html Store to order practical, communication tools only available from Shannon https://relationshipgardening.weebly.com/store/c1/Featured_Products.html Marriage Help Gift video has a Black Australorp as co-host! Watch for Athena... |
"Love Habits" INSTANT ACCESS to communication excellence: *to keep your relationship thriving *for conflict savvy *for building trust *for better friendships *for marriage repair *for relationship success *for growing healthy connections Place your email address in the blue box! I promise it's bigger on the inside. NOT TYPICAL MARRIAGE COUNSELING! Most marriage help really bombs and that is a fact, Jack! When surveyed most licensed counselors say they see couples and almost none have the training, even in grad school!!!!!!! So if your partner says they don't want to talk to me because marriage counseling sucks, tell them I agree with them. That is why I don't do typical marriage counseling. We don't get swallowed up by the past, we don't have a passive watching you argue kind of session, & we don't only learn to listen better. WHAT IS IT LIKE TO HAVE THIS KIND OF COUPLE'S SESSION? Think of this kind of input as an interactive class with things to do based on real people's success and help doing it on the spot. Think of personal training when you have a plan of action and you do your fitness routine daily. Couples have very doable home relationship fitness to do daily that draws you closer. We WILL get your stuff unpacked so that you can let it go if you have distressing events that have occurred, but in a way that you do it with each other with help at first (or till you can do it on your own) and get real understanding, validation and teamwork FROM EACH OTHER!! Isn't that beautiful!?! WHAT ARE THE GOALS FOR COUPLES? Relationship Gardening is here for your happy marriage-let's make it so! Let's get you the tools that we have gleaned from happy relationships so you can shift your communication at home for:
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NEWS! State Licensing Board clarifies that someone from ANY state, not just Oregon can visit in person an Oregon licensed professional!
I also have a CA LMFT license and can see Californians that qualify for remote, distance, video sessions for counseling or coaching. My state of residence is OR so rules here apply to who can see me for counseling. Add in CA since I have a license there too. OR and CA residents can receive remote, distance, video, telehealth (common terms used) counseling services with me. |
DISTANCE SESSIONS ( Click here: What is a Distance Session including video chat?) EVENTS Fun and engaging presentations are offered and can be arranged for your group, party, religious group, class, or organization e.g, an outdoor House party with demos, how fun! All offered as a masked, socially distanced outdoor gathering, or via online video meeting. WALK N Talk -walking counseling or consultation sessions in or near Portland, OR, masked and distanced for when you are all zoomed out. (Walk & Talk) |
