"What does it mean to live radically and boldly, so that you don't wake up one day -- decades too late -- wondering what the hell just happened? Where did my life go and why didn't I do the things I wanted to do?" ~Sir Ken Robinson
At Relationship Gardening, I help you take that bold, radical step to better choices, better habits of communication, better loving!
Innovative creativity and education thinker and international consultant,
Sir Ken continues...
"The thing is, if you are a leader, if you are running a state or a company, or a family or a school, you can’t make people develop, you can’t make them creative, you can’t make them find their talent. Any more than a farmer makes a plant grow. I mean a farmer or a gardener doesn’t make a plant grow, the plant grows itself. You don’t stand around attaching petals and roots to this thing, it grows itself.
"What you do, if you’re any good, is you provide the ideal conditions for growth (...) the great conditions under which it will grow. We know that’s possible, because we know how easy it is to provide conditions under which things wilt and die. So, a part of this is climate change. It’s creating different social climates, different institutional climates, where people give it their best and become their best."
Just like nurturing social and educational climates, I learned how we can create more ideal conditions for growth in your marriage!
I did it for myself too now with my special someone over 28 years! Of course it is a team effort-so I couldnt do it without him. I am thankful to find a partner who is also motivated to grow and maintain healthy habits. You've got to know what those are and they are very specific!!
HOW DO COUPLES GET WILTED?
One form of wilt and die couples get is from simply doing nothing special in your relationship, making little effort thinking, "If I ignore these issues, difficulties, or needs-they will go away." Seriously, you're looking at heartbreak and divorce lawyers if you remain passive. That was my first marriage. Don't marry young, kids!
Another form of wilt and die is to bite it before it bites you. Even if you think you are bitey for good reasons, again-I have a good collaborative lawyer you can meet with because bitey, hostile, mean behavior eventually sits you at the lawyer's table. Oh I am SO glad I didn't keep dating that one bitey dude!
Yet another that is pretty common these days since the pandemic is how relationships can be piled on when juggling fertility challenges, raising children, quarantines or isolation, caring for elders, toxic or drama stirring relatives, economic pressures, difficult health, incessant racism, grief, world events, any single one of which might be too much for us. Life can feel like a deluge -seed rot everywhere from too much downpour!
If you are a weighed down in mucky conditions, get help to make this switch to a relationship that is healthy enough to produce good feelings and memories. You need a safe place to land and restore yourselves. We can build it.
What can you do right now to provide the nurturing conditions for a relationship climate change?
If you need ideas, structure or encouragement to shift to the heal and thrive, to grow your healthy Relationship Gardening of no regrets-call or email me today (see top right CONNECT WITH SHANNON icons or green EMAIL SHANNON button lower on the page)!
SEE THE ABOUT SHANNON PAGE which you will find tucked in to the About tab if you are really nosey and want to read some personal things, and more about all this marriage beeswax.
love,
Shannon
"What you do, if you’re any good, is you provide the ideal conditions for growth (...) the great conditions under which it will grow. We know that’s possible, because we know how easy it is to provide conditions under which things wilt and die. So, a part of this is climate change. It’s creating different social climates, different institutional climates, where people give it their best and become their best."
Just like nurturing social and educational climates, I learned how we can create more ideal conditions for growth in your marriage!
I did it for myself too now with my special someone over 28 years! Of course it is a team effort-so I couldnt do it without him. I am thankful to find a partner who is also motivated to grow and maintain healthy habits. You've got to know what those are and they are very specific!!
HOW DO COUPLES GET WILTED?
One form of wilt and die couples get is from simply doing nothing special in your relationship, making little effort thinking, "If I ignore these issues, difficulties, or needs-they will go away." Seriously, you're looking at heartbreak and divorce lawyers if you remain passive. That was my first marriage. Don't marry young, kids!
Another form of wilt and die is to bite it before it bites you. Even if you think you are bitey for good reasons, again-I have a good collaborative lawyer you can meet with because bitey, hostile, mean behavior eventually sits you at the lawyer's table. Oh I am SO glad I didn't keep dating that one bitey dude!
Yet another that is pretty common these days since the pandemic is how relationships can be piled on when juggling fertility challenges, raising children, quarantines or isolation, caring for elders, toxic or drama stirring relatives, economic pressures, difficult health, incessant racism, grief, world events, any single one of which might be too much for us. Life can feel like a deluge -seed rot everywhere from too much downpour!
If you are a weighed down in mucky conditions, get help to make this switch to a relationship that is healthy enough to produce good feelings and memories. You need a safe place to land and restore yourselves. We can build it.
What can you do right now to provide the nurturing conditions for a relationship climate change?
If you need ideas, structure or encouragement to shift to the heal and thrive, to grow your healthy Relationship Gardening of no regrets-call or email me today (see top right CONNECT WITH SHANNON icons or green EMAIL SHANNON button lower on the page)!
SEE THE ABOUT SHANNON PAGE which you will find tucked in to the About tab if you are really nosey and want to read some personal things, and more about all this marriage beeswax.
love,
Shannon
Shannon Batts, Founder and CEO of Relationship Gardening, Licensed Professional Counselor for Oregonians (C2379) and Licensed Marriage, & Family Therapist for Californians (MFC34477), life coach for all the rest, has degrees and certificates, blah blah blah..., look over there-a Disapproving Rabbit!
What books, authors or shows have moved you to tears of joy, taught you something life changing, moved you? Here are a few of my favorites: Queen Sugar, Bell Hooks, Janet Mock, Connie Willis (Doomsday Book), Nancy Farmer (Sea of Trolls), The IT Crowd, Crazy Ex Girlfriend, Your Money or Your Life, Schitts Creek, Atlanta, Layla Saad (Me and White Supremacy), Terry Pratchett, Allen Ginsberg, Caroline Bird. My favorite job was consultant for an alternative HS. Think rival gangs, poverty, teen parents, drive bys (my car got shot up), lots of donut bribes at their homes before school, kids with guts to take steps toward healing and making it better for the next generation. |
Here we have what is known as a "Disapproving Rabbit."
Need I say more? |
