"What does it mean to live radically and boldly, so that you don't wake up one day -- decades too late -- wondering what the hell just happened? Where did my life go and why didn't I do the things I wanted to do?" ~Sir Ken Robinson
At Relationship Gardening, I, Shannon Batts (on the left in very purple 2014 version), can help you take that bold, radical step to better choices, better habits of communication, better loving!
Licensed (CA MFC34477, OR C2379), Advanced Gottman trained, find me in Portland, Oregon, or invite me to do an interactive presentation for your organization. Live video consultation for Oregonians and Californians!
Innovative creativity and education thinker and international consultant, Sir Ken continues:
"The thing is, if you are a leader, if you are running a state or a company, or a family or a school, you can’t make people develop, you can’t make them creative, you can’t make them find their talent. Any more than a farmer makes a plant grow. I mean a farmer or a gardener doesn’t make a plant grow, the plant grows itself. You don’t stand around attaching petals and roots to this thing, it grows itself.
What you do, if you’re any good, is your provide the ideal conditions for growth (...) the great conditions under which it will grow. We know that’s possible, because we know how easy it is to provide conditions under which things wilt and die. So, a part of this is climate change. It’s creating different social climates, different institutional climates, where people give it their best and become their best."
In the interview excerpt above, Sir Ken Robinson brings our attention to creating nurturing social and educational climates. He is so right that it is easy to be part of the wilt and die. My mission with Relationship Gardening is to inspire and inform people that it is just as easy to be part of the heal and thrive side of life. Let's create more ideal conditions for growth in your marriage!
One form of wilt and die is simply doing nothing special in your relationship. If you ignore it-it will go away. Seriously, you're looking at lawyers and divorce heartbreak if you remain passive. Another form of wilt and die is to bite it before it bites you. Even if you think you are bitey for good reasons, again-I have a good collaborative lawyer you can meet with because bitey, hostile, mean behavior eventually sits you at the lawyer's table.
Maybe at first it might pose a challenge to make the switch to a relationship that is healthy enough to produce good feelings and memories, if you are a bit weighed down in mucky conditions. Relationships can feel overwhelming when raising children, caring for elders, economic pressures, or impaired health, any single one of which might be too much for us. Life can feel like a deluge -seed rot everywhere from too much downpour!
Speaking from experience both as a homeschooling mother, and a relationship coach, it takes some dedicated (meaning everyday without giving up) effort to practice nurturing habits of positivity toward ourselves, children and partners. And you have to know what those habits are!
Sure it's easy for some without any challenge to your life-but add in the challenges and you cannot survive without the food to keep growing! You needed it to build the foundation of your relationship and you especially need it when going through tough phases of life.
What can you do right now to provide the nurturing conditions for a relationship climate change?
If you need ideas, structure or encouragement to shift to the heal and thrive, to grow your healthy Relationship Gardening of no regrets-call or email me today (see top right contact icons or green button below)!
love,
Shannon
PS I offer the latest Gottman Relationship Check-Up that is done online and is only available through a licensed therapist. This is an exciting new option since 2015 which means you can complete your assessments before your 2nd appt so that you can have your feedback about your relationship sooner than waiting for hand scoring of a hard copy.
What you do, if you’re any good, is your provide the ideal conditions for growth (...) the great conditions under which it will grow. We know that’s possible, because we know how easy it is to provide conditions under which things wilt and die. So, a part of this is climate change. It’s creating different social climates, different institutional climates, where people give it their best and become their best."
In the interview excerpt above, Sir Ken Robinson brings our attention to creating nurturing social and educational climates. He is so right that it is easy to be part of the wilt and die. My mission with Relationship Gardening is to inspire and inform people that it is just as easy to be part of the heal and thrive side of life. Let's create more ideal conditions for growth in your marriage!
One form of wilt and die is simply doing nothing special in your relationship. If you ignore it-it will go away. Seriously, you're looking at lawyers and divorce heartbreak if you remain passive. Another form of wilt and die is to bite it before it bites you. Even if you think you are bitey for good reasons, again-I have a good collaborative lawyer you can meet with because bitey, hostile, mean behavior eventually sits you at the lawyer's table.
Maybe at first it might pose a challenge to make the switch to a relationship that is healthy enough to produce good feelings and memories, if you are a bit weighed down in mucky conditions. Relationships can feel overwhelming when raising children, caring for elders, economic pressures, or impaired health, any single one of which might be too much for us. Life can feel like a deluge -seed rot everywhere from too much downpour!
Speaking from experience both as a homeschooling mother, and a relationship coach, it takes some dedicated (meaning everyday without giving up) effort to practice nurturing habits of positivity toward ourselves, children and partners. And you have to know what those habits are!
Sure it's easy for some without any challenge to your life-but add in the challenges and you cannot survive without the food to keep growing! You needed it to build the foundation of your relationship and you especially need it when going through tough phases of life.
What can you do right now to provide the nurturing conditions for a relationship climate change?
If you need ideas, structure or encouragement to shift to the heal and thrive, to grow your healthy Relationship Gardening of no regrets-call or email me today (see top right contact icons or green button below)!
love,
Shannon
PS I offer the latest Gottman Relationship Check-Up that is done online and is only available through a licensed therapist. This is an exciting new option since 2015 which means you can complete your assessments before your 2nd appt so that you can have your feedback about your relationship sooner than waiting for hand scoring of a hard copy.
Shannon Batts, Founder and CEO of Relationship Gardening, Licensed Professional Counselor for Oregonians (C2379) and Licensed Marriage, & Family Therapist for Californians (MFC34477), life coach for all the rest, has degrees and certificates, blah blah blah..., look over there-a Disapproving Rabbit!
Hyperbole and a Half is my favorite blog (especially the pain chart). Comedy can't get any more divine than Hugh Laurie, Dawn French, Jennifer Saunders, Dylan Moran, Bill Bailey, and Catherine Tate (How VERY dare you). I'm elated that Portland has delish gluten free and dairy free options (props to New Cascadia Traditional Bakery, Back to Eden (RIP), Petunia's). What books or shows have moved you to tears of joy or otherwise? Weeping or falling over laughing accompanied my read/watch of Connie Willis (Doomsday Book), Nancy Farmer (Sea of Trolls), The IT Crowd, Crazy Ex Girlfriend, Schitts Creek, Atlanta, and more I'll think of later. My favorite job was consultant for an alternative HS. Think gangs, teen parents, drive bys (my car got shot up), lots of donut bribes at their homes before school, kids with guts to heal and make it better for the next generation. I am a Rabbit Advocate in Portland, Oregon and a bunnysitter (rabbitcareportland.com). Married over 25 years, I bring wisdom of applying tools to personally make marriage last. My homeschooled kiddo won as part of an ensemble, a Drammy in 2014 for which I was practically hoarse screaming in excitement for her and all of Portland Playhouse' wins! We are definitely theatre and writer people. Now she is adulting in NYC, studying hard, creating and reaching for the stars where she belongs. |
Here we have what is known as a "Disapproving Rabbit." Need I say more?
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