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Spouse of
​Transgender or Non Binary Partner
Online Support

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When you learn of your partner's gender identity transition, it is hard to know who you can talk to since it is such a private matter. Sometimes you don't yet have the freedom to talk with your friends and family if your person is not quite out.

Your partner may be celebratory while you are in shock (normal), and you don't know where to take this grief.  Your friends and family of origin are sometimes clueless about how to respond in the way you need, or with love and respect as they deal with their own shock. They may need to catch up on what it all means and how best to be an ally for you and your partner. 
You may be fortunate to have the acceptance in your circles, or the reactions may be mixed, or changing.
You might be a spouse who doesn't feel shocked but instead have been wondering if your partner has some gender questioning to do and now that they are doing that can move into processing what it all means for you and you two in your relationship going forward.

For right now though, you as a spouse have a lot of your own questions or are just wondering, "where are the others like me?" You can meet people online who are in a similar situation or already successfully navigated through transitions. Start with the online lists, groups, and chats. The community is growing with 1.6 million transgender people 13 and over in the US (Williams Institute).  That's a lot of partners too.

The internet is full of negativity and bashing of the relationship in transition.  Mute that and move on to people with success stories, many of which you can find in PFLAG support circles online. Here is a link to PFLAG-however you can look around for the ones in any states that have a trans family focus. https://pflag.org/

​Visit the other tab, Spouses Resource Center and watch a video message and more, or click here.

Transgender Partners
https://www.reddit.com/r/mypartneristrans/ is the Reddit online community that also mentions other things you can connect to like Discord groups, online bookgroups, and partner groups around the world. 

Remember: love remains; we'll sort the rest out together.