Is Change Possible in Relationships? How many therapists does it take to change a light bulb?
None. The light bulb will change itself when it's ready.
But, are we born with this information? Did your relationship come with instructions?
Is your mother, sister, brother, father, neighbor, lover, boss, sponsor, right about what it takes to make a marriage last? Not likely, but maybe they read up.
Maybe you got lucky and asked someone on the long lasting, happy path. But what works may seem to be one thing and really be another.
The research shows us that everyone has disagreement in some of the basic areas: money, kids-especially babies, in-laws, chore division, work, and sex. It is not that having these conflicts is your problem, nor is it the thing that will cause you to divorce. How you approach your hot topics is what makes or breaks you, not that there are hot topics. And that, my friend, is heavily influenced by your everyday interactions when not in conflict. And for some, traumas mess things up by shortening your fuse as a result of a fight or flight habit that is stuck in the on position. WE can do something about that!!!
I know you are seeking. What will it take to get you in a conversation about how we can make this better? Doing nothing is choosing relationship demise. You will not know if you have given your relationship a fair chance to be a good one if you haven't applied the healthy love habits we know are present in marriages that thrive. They are not optional so it would make sense that marriages fall apart without them. So let's get them rolling for you!
Since you made it this far I invite you to do the following on your way to making a better choice than same old, same old. You can go to my Free Gift tab and get your copy of something I call "Love Habits," or use the blue sign up box that says "Love Habits" anywhere on the relationshipgardening.weebly.com site.
Or just call or write today (see "connect with Shannon at top right of any page).
None. The light bulb will change itself when it's ready.
But, are we born with this information? Did your relationship come with instructions?
Is your mother, sister, brother, father, neighbor, lover, boss, sponsor, right about what it takes to make a marriage last? Not likely, but maybe they read up.
Maybe you got lucky and asked someone on the long lasting, happy path. But what works may seem to be one thing and really be another.
The research shows us that everyone has disagreement in some of the basic areas: money, kids-especially babies, in-laws, chore division, work, and sex. It is not that having these conflicts is your problem, nor is it the thing that will cause you to divorce. How you approach your hot topics is what makes or breaks you, not that there are hot topics. And that, my friend, is heavily influenced by your everyday interactions when not in conflict. And for some, traumas mess things up by shortening your fuse as a result of a fight or flight habit that is stuck in the on position. WE can do something about that!!!
I know you are seeking. What will it take to get you in a conversation about how we can make this better? Doing nothing is choosing relationship demise. You will not know if you have given your relationship a fair chance to be a good one if you haven't applied the healthy love habits we know are present in marriages that thrive. They are not optional so it would make sense that marriages fall apart without them. So let's get them rolling for you!
Since you made it this far I invite you to do the following on your way to making a better choice than same old, same old. You can go to my Free Gift tab and get your copy of something I call "Love Habits," or use the blue sign up box that says "Love Habits" anywhere on the relationshipgardening.weebly.com site.
Or just call or write today (see "connect with Shannon at top right of any page).
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